A Father's Love.

A child instinctively knows he should be loved.

And although we may receive love from our mothers our father is often distant and cold.

This is compounded for the gay child because his behavior will often not live up to a father's expectations of a masculine child.

A gay child will often lack the manly virtues of physical strength, emotional control, sporting achievement, and self-confidence.

A gay child may be artistic and sensitive, even effeminate.
He may want to dress up (even in his mother's clothes) and wear make-up.  He may be more interested in musicals than sports.

This, of course, is confusing for the father and he may even despise his own child.

Hence when the child reaches puberty he sets out on an unconscious search for his father's love.

While this is s strong motivating factor in gay men I do not think that it is the cause of homosexual orientation.

Same-sex attraction would appear to be genetic.
It is a physical phenomenon which manifests in puberty.

But the emotional and psychological characteristics of homosexuality exist in childhood and can be recognized.

Many gay men may have a strong feminine component without being overtly effeminate.  Others may feel strongly that they identify as female.

In the gay scene many will aspire so strongly to the desired ideal of masculinity that they adopt a predominantly macho culture.

Anonymous, casual sex is common in the gay scene.

This is a relic from the age when homosexuality was illegal and men had to hide their true nature.

Now, when a young gay man enters the gay scene, he is looking for a relationship that will last and satisfy his yearning for masculine love.  


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